It happens over and over again in life, you come to a fork in the road, and you need to decide what to do.
Then … Something comes up! Maybe your phone rings or your email beeps …
This is when you make a decision… to put off making your decision.
You may think that decisions take time, months even. I am here to tell you that this is not true: decisions are made in an instant. Gathering further information is not you making a decision. Sure, you can delay making the decision for as long as you like, add it to your to-do list, let it preoccupy your mind, but at some point, in an instant, you will make a decision.
A second truth for you: if you have the right mindset, there are no wrong decisions.
I know, just bear with me.
The worst case scenario is a lesson. I know, we all think we want to do the right thing all the time. We actually learn a lot more from making mistakes, than we do from our successes. This means, actually, you are going to get smarter by making the “wrong” decision today. Win, win.
In fact, the only way to lose here is really to not make a decision.
Would you describe yourself as decisive? If yes, great. Keep going, crossing decisions off your to-do list and moving forward. If you would answer no, then start practicing the skill of decision making today. Start small – decide where you and a friend will meet, decide what podcast you want to listen to, decide what time you will go for coffee.
By the way, if your answer above was “maybe” then you DEFINITELY fall into the indecisive category!
Remember this, indecision means something will continue to consume your mind. You can’t move forward, it can be draining.
Don’t get me wrong, I am all for sleeping on things, or giving yourself a little time to consider pros and cons. However, there is definitely a diminishing return to the time spent making a decision and how useful the extra time is.
When I talk to new clients I always tell them to make a decision – do you want to work with me or not? It isn’t something to add to your to-do list. It is freeing for them, I’m not pestering them for months checking in to see if they still, maybe would like coaching. It is freeing for me, I can devote my time to reaching new clients that do want coaching.
Do you have a decision you are struggling with right now? Message me and let me help you.